THREADS OF GRIEF, A TAPESTRY OF LOVE

A Tribute to Mother’s

When a Mother’s World Unravels

There are moments in Scripture so familiar that we forget to feel them. We read them with reverence, but not always with imagination. We honor them, but we do not always enter them. And yet, standing at the foot of the cross, beneath the bruised sky of Golgotha there is a woman whose story every mother knows, whether she speaks it aloud or carries it in silence. Her name is Mary, and she is watching her Son die.

This is not the serene Mary of Christmas cards, holding a newborn wrapped in swaddling cloths. This is not the Mary who pondered things in her heart. This is the Mary whose heart is being pierced exactly as Simeon prophesied: “A sword shall pierce through your own soul also” [Luke 2:35]. She stands there as a mother whose world is coming apart thread by thread. Every memory she ever cherished is bleeding out in front of her. Every promise she ever held is hanging on a cross.

And for every mother who has ever buried a child, or lost one to tragedy, or watched one drift into darkness, or prayed for one who never came home, Mary’s grief is not a distant story. It is a mirror.

The Silence of the Missing

Joseph is gone by this point in the story. Scripture does not tell us when he died, only that he is absent from every scene of Jesus’ adult life. And Mary’s other sons — the ones who should have stood beside her — are nowhere to be found. John tells us plainly, “For even His brothers did not believe in Him” [John 7:5]. They were not there to support Him, and they were not there to support her.

Mary stands alone in her grief, surrounded by crowds but abandoned by the very family she once nurtured. It is a loneliness many mothers know too well — the loneliness of carrying burdens no one else sees, of loving children who do not understand the cost of that love, of standing in places where no one stands with you.

But Jesus sees her. Even in agony, even in suffocating pain, even as the weight of the world presses against His chest, He sees her.

The Cross as a Loom

In one of the most tender and overlooked moments in all of Scripture, Jesus speaks words that are not merely sentimental, but structural. They are not poetic; they are architectural. They are the blueprint of a new kind of family.

“When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple standing by, whom He loved, He saith unto His mother, Woman, behold thy son. Then saith He to the disciple, Behold thy mother.” [John 19:26–27]

These are not the words of a dying man trying to comfort His mother. These are the words of the Son of God establishing a new household. In this moment, Jesus is not simply caring for Mary; He is redefining family itself. He is showing us that the bonds formed by His blood are stronger than the bonds formed by DNA. He is revealing that the kingdom of God is not built on ancestry, but on obedience, compassion, and covenant love.

At the foot of the cross, Jesus becomes the Weaver. Mary’s thread is frayed with grief. John’s thread is steady with devotion. And with hands pierced and trembling, He ties them together. The cross becomes a loom, and from its beams God begins to weave a new tapestry.

Threads of Grief

Grief is a thread every mother knows. It may be the grief of loss, or the grief of fear, or the grief of watching a child walk a path you cannot follow. It may be the grief of distance, or silence, or regret. It may be the grief of dreams that never came to pass, or prayers that seem unanswered, or hopes that feel too heavy to hold.

Mary’s grief was not theoretical. It was not poetic. It was not symbolic. It was real, raw, and devastating. And yet Jesus did not let her grief unravel her. He wove it into something larger than she could see.

This is the hope every grieving mother needs: grief is a thread, not the whole tapestry. It is part of the story, but not the end of it. In the hands of Christ, even the darkest threads are woven into something beautiful.

A Tapestry of Love

When Jesus joined Mary and John, He was doing more than providing care. He was demonstrating the very heart of God. He was showing us that love is not passive. Love is not distant. Love does not outsource responsibility to institutions, agencies, or systems. Love steps in. Love takes ownership. Love binds wounds. Love builds family.

Jesus’ words echo His teaching: “Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these My brethren, ye have done it unto Me.” [Matthew 25:40] The least of these are not strangers; they are family. They are the ones Christ ties to us at the foot of the cross. They are the ones we are commanded to care for, not because we share blood, but because we share the Lamb.

The tapestry Jesus weaves is made of compassion, sacrifice, and covenant love. It is made of people who choose to care for one another when the world walks away. It is made of spiritual mothers and spiritual sons, of adopted families and chosen families, of believers who carry one another’s burdens because Christ carried ours.

For the Mothers Who Carry Silent Pain

This message is for the mother who buried a child and wonders if anyone remembers her pain. It is for the mother whose son is lost in addiction, whose daughter is lost in rebellion, whose home is filled with silence instead of laughter. It is for the mother who miscarried, the mother who fostered, the mother who adopted, the mother who prayed for children she never had, and the mother who mothers through prayer, encouragement, and faith.

Jesus sees every thread. He sees every tear. He sees every unraveling. And He weaves.

For the Children Who Feel Motherless

This message is also for the child who lost a mother too soon, or never knew her at all. It is for the child whose mother abandoned them, or whose mother was present in body but absent in heart. It is for the child who longs for a mother’s love but has never felt it.

Jesus says, “Behold thy mother.” He places you in a family. He surrounds you with women of faith who carry wisdom, compassion, and strength. He gives you mothers in the Spirit who will pray for you, guide you, and love you with the love of Christ.

You are not alone. You are not forgotten. You are not without covering.

The Church as the Woven Family of God

The words Jesus spoke from the cross were not suggestions. They were commands. They were the foundation of a new kind of community — one where no one stands alone, where no one grieves alone, where no one carries burdens alone. The church is not a gathering of strangers; it is a tapestry woven by the hands of Christ.

We are called to care for the widows, the fatherless, the grieving, the abandoned, and the forgotten. We are called to step into the gaps left by broken families and fractured relationships. We are called to be the hands that weave, the hearts that love, and the shoulders that carry.

This is the tapestry of love.

A Prayer of Comfort and Covenant Love

Lord Jesus, You who hung between heaven and earth with love pouring from every wound, we come to You now as Mary once did — with trembling hearts, with threads of grief in our hands, with stories too heavy to carry alone. You spoke from the cross, not only to comfort a grieving mother, but to reveal Yourself as the Son who never dies, the Son who never leaves, the Son who never forsakes. When You said, “Woman, behold thy son,” You were not pointing only to John. You were pointing to Yourself — the risen Son, the reigning Son, the eternal Son who holds every mother close to His heart.

Comfort the mothers who stand in the shadows of loss. Comfort the mothers whose children sleep in graves, whose sons and daughters slipped through their fingers like sand, whose arms ache with memories they cannot touch. Comfort the mothers who carry silent sorrow, who pray in the night watches, who wonder if anyone sees the tears they hide. Remind them that You are the Friend who sticks closer than a brother, closer than a son, closer than any earthly bond. Remind them that You are the One who walks beside them in the valley, who gathers every tear, who weaves every broken thread into a tapestry of love.

Comfort also the children who feel motherless — those who lost their mothers too soon, those who never knew the warmth of a mother’s embrace, those whose mothers were present in body but absent in heart. Speak over them the same words You spoke at Calvary: “Behold thy mother.” Place them in families of faith. Surround them with women of wisdom, compassion, and strength. Let them know they are not abandoned, not forgotten, not left to wander alone.

And Lord, speak to Your church. Bind us together with cords that cannot be broken. Teach us to cherish the family You have woven by Your blood. Deliver us from division, from coldness, from the temptation to outsource compassion to institutions and systems. Make us a people who carry one another’s burdens, who show up when others walk away, who love with the fierce, covenant love that held You to the cross.

As the days grow darker and the world grows colder, let the church grow warmer. Let the ties that bind us become stronger. Let the tapestry of Your people shine with the colors of mercy, sacrifice, and steadfast love. Make us a refuge for the grieving, a shelter for the lonely, a home for the broken, and a family for the forgotten.

Lord Jesus, risen Son, reigning King, eternal Brother, everlasting Father, Shepherd of our souls — hold every mother close today. Hold every child close. Hold Your church close. And weave us, thread by thread, into the tapestry of Your redeeming love.

Amen.

Reservoirs, Civilizations, and the Church’s Mission

Long before our highways and reservoirs, there was the Indus Valley Civilization — one of the world’s earliest advanced societies. They thrived between 5,000 and 3,500 years ago in what is now Pakistan and northwest India. Their cities were marvels of planning: paved streets, sewage systems, irrigation channels, and cisterns that stored precious water. For centuries they flourished, but when the rains ceased and the inflow slowed, their reservoirs and rivers could no longer sustain them. Over time, the people dispersed, their great cities abandoned, undone not by war but by drought.


That history came to mind as I drove past the Oneida Valley Reservoir this week. Through the windshield I saw the shallow waterline, the exposed banks, the tired look of a system running on yesterday’s supply. And I thought of the church in our time.

The people gather as the season of Hope, Joy, Love, and Light approaches. They light candles, sing carols, and preach sermons. Yet many hearts are heavy, struggling to believe tomorrow will be brighter. Joy is thin, divisions are common, and Love is misplaced — poured into the institution or the season rather than the Lord Himself. The Light flickers, but shadows linger.

The watchman cries out with the words of Jeremiah:“My people have committed two evils: they have forsaken me, the fountain of living waters, and hewed out cisterns for themselves, broken cisterns that can hold no water” (Jeremiah 2:13).Do you not see? Our reservoir cannot survive on yesterday’s water. Hope cannot be sustained by slogans, Joy cannot be manufactured by programs, Love cannot be replaced by sentiment, and Light cannot shine without Christ Himself. We need fresh inflow — daily bread, living water, the Spirit poured anew — or our reservoir will run dry.

Even now, homes affected by low water levels are advised to reduce usage. Conservation helps, but it cannot restore the reservoir. The only way the water rises again is for the heavens to open and pour down refreshing rain. We can preserve all we want, but without a fresh inflow, the supply will eventually dry up.

Barna’s research confirms the warning. The number of religious “nones” — those with no faith affiliation — has climbed steadily, now representing nearly a quarter of U.S. adults. It is the sign of an organization failing its primary mission: to bring living water to a thirsty world. And when our own supply is uncertain, when we are in survival mode, our ability to offer even a drink of cold water to “the least of these” (Matthew 10:42) is greatly affected. A reservoir that has been dammed up for years cannot refresh others; its shallow waters leave both the church and the world parched.

Yet the promise remains: “If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me… out of his heart will flow rivers of living water” (John 7:37–38). Christ is the Living Water. His Spirit is the inflow that renews Hope, restores Joy, rekindles Love, and shines Light into the darkness. And the truth is simple enough to remember as you drive past shallow waters or flickering lights:

Know Jesus, know peace. No Jesus, no peace.

The Depth of Divine Love

The love of God is a force beyond human comprehension. It stretches beyond the highest heavens, deeper than the ocean’s abyss, wider than the horizon we can see. It is limitless, boundless, and eternal. Robert Lowry’s hymn “The Love of God” reminds us that even if the sky were a scroll and the seas filled with ink, we could never fully capture the vastness of God’s love. This truth should stir us—not to despair at our inability to grasp it, but to rejoice in the endless grace that surrounds us.

Such love is not passive or distant. It is a love that pursues, restores, and redeems. From the pages of Scripture to the evidence in our daily lives, God’s love is active, reaching into our brokenness and lifting us up. Consider how this love transformed lives throughout history—how it turned sorrow into joy, fear into peace, and separation into reconciliation. This is the love that Christ demonstrated on the cross, the love that holds us even when we falter.

Yet, we often struggle to accept such profound love. We question whether we are worthy, whether we have done enough, whether our past mistakes disqualify us. But God’s love is not measured by our actions; it is given freely, with no conditions, no limits.

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39

When we allow ourselves to embrace it, we find rest, purpose, and the assurance that His love is forever.

“Could we with ink the ocean fill,
And were the skies of parchment made,
Were every stalk on earth a quill,
And every man a scribe by trade,
To write the love of God above
Would drain the ocean dry,
Nor could the scroll contain the whole
Though stretched from sky to sky.”

This vivid depiction reminds us that God’s love is beyond human comprehension. It overflows, unable to be contained or fully expressed in words

If you love me you must accept me as I am…

Not so fast.

Mk 17 (GW) As Jesus was coming out to the road, a man came running to him and knelt in front of him. He asked Jesus, “Good Teacher, what should I do to inherit eternal life?”
18 Jesus said to him, “Why do you call me good? No one is good except God alone.
19 You know the commandments: Never murder. Never commit adultery. Never steal. Never give false testimony. Never cheat. Honor your father and mother.”
20 The man replied, “Teacher, I’ve obeyed all these commandments since I was a boy.”
21 Jesus looked at him and loved him. He told him, “You’re still missing one thing. Sell everything you have. Give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then follow me!”
22 When the man heard that, he looked unhappy and went away sad, because he owned a lot of property. Mark 10:17-22

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The most important thing that jumped out at me with this passages are the words: Jesus looked at him and loved him.

If I have heard it once I have heard it a thousand times God is love and we must love others. So what is love and how does it relate to dealing with others? This passage is a perfect example of what love actually is and what love expects.

JESUS LOVED this man who came to him wanting to gain salvation. Liken this to the person who comes to church asking what they must do to gain eternal life. For the most part these people present themselves as law-abiding citizens and are living a decent and good life. To the average person this man who came to Jesus was an upstanding citizen, an accomplished man, a leader among his peers, successful by the worlds standards and most likely a person any organization would happily employ. This person is not living a visible sinful lifestyle. He would appear to the natural man that he had it all together.

And Jesus LOVED HIM. He loved him enough to tell him his shortcomings. He loved him enough to not let him continue living the life that he was living. He loved him enough to tell him the truth. As compared to what a GODLY life actually entailed this man had missed the mark completely. This man had put his trust in his personal accomplishments. He had acquired a great deal of success and prominence in this world, his resume was impressive, but failed to gain entrance into God’s kingdom.

Jesus loved him. And told him that he needed one thing. To sell everything he had and humble himself to take up the cross and follow Jesus. Interesting enough that is the same message Jesus gave to all his disciples. If any man wished to follow Christ and be his disciple he must take up his cross and follow him. Mt 16:24, Mk 8:34, Lk 9:23.

This is not a new concept and Jesus was not singling out this person and asking him to do anything less than what he had expected of all his disciples.

Why then is it that today’s church does not require the same of their disciples? Why is it that for the most part everyone who comes to the church is offered entrance without any requirements of self-sacrifice and cross bearing? Why do those who come to the church wish to be treated special? They do not wish to be required to give up anything in their life. They want to continue to live exactly like they have before coming to the church. They feel like this man did, they had achieved everything they needed to be acceptable in society and as such should be offered entrance into heaven simply because of their ‘good works‘ or ‘good living’.

God saved you through faith as an act of kindness. You had nothing to do with it. Being saved is a gift from God. It’s not the result of anything you’ve done, so no one can brag about it. Ephesians 2:8-9 (GW) 

You see then all those things that this man thought he had accomplished did not earn him entrance into God’s kingdom because they were done apart from the will of God. They were not done by God’s Spirit. You see to gain entrance into the kingdom of God we must trust in God to lead us there, we can not lead ourselves there nor earn our way in. Prior to coming to Christ all our accomplishments are not acceptable.

Sell all you have accomplished, give it away, give it to the poor, and take up your cross, deny yourself, and follow Jesus wherever it is he leads you. Then you shall gain entrance into the kingdom of God. Your plans and accomplishments are not what is important. Everything you thought you wanted to do does not matter. It is not YOUR way that is going to get it done. It is HIS way and only HIS way.

Jesus answered him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one goes to the Father except through me. John 14:6 (GW) 

No one who enters the kingdom of God will ever say they did it their way. And our way is not going to get us there either.

You see folks God is under absolutely no obligation to honor you for your accomplishments, nor is he obligated to honor you because of your ‘good living’. He is God and as such needs to be honored as God and only those who do his will are acceptable into his kingdom.

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord!’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the person who does what my Father in heaven wants. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, didn’t we prophesy in your name? Didn’t we force out demons and do many miracles by the power and authority of your name?’ Then I will tell them publicly, ‘I’ve never known you. Get away from me, you evil people.’ Matthew 7:21-23 (GW) 

Do not be deceived into believing that just because things have gone well for you, and you have accomplished great things in this world, that you have a guarantee entrance into God’s kingdom. There is only one way to get in and that is to deny thyself, and take up the cross and follow Jesus. You can not come to Christ and continue to live like He doesn’t matter.

Many of us like this rich man are imprisoned to our own wants, needs and desires, and as such we are not fit for God’s kingdom. Until we are willing to lay it all down and take up our cross to follow Jesus, we will never inherit the kingdom of God.

What is love then? Love dares to speak the truth. And the truth is NO ONE shall enter the kingdom of God without taking up their own personal cross. Regardless of their standing in the world.

This is hard for believers to handle because even Christ’s own disciples took exception to how Jesus handled the rich man. They were shocked that he turned the man away. Actually the man turned himself away because he refused to do what Jesus had asked him to do. Remember Jesus asked him to give all his money away because he LOVED HIM.

Mk 23 (GW) Jesus looked around and said to his disciples, “How hard it will be for rich people to enter the kingdom of God!”
24 The disciples were stunned by his words. But Jesus said to them again, “Children, how hard it is to enter the kingdom of God!
25 It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.”
26 This amazed his disciples more than ever. They asked each other, “Who, then, can be saved?”
27 Jesus looked at them and said, “It’s impossible for people {to save themselves}, but it’s not impossible for God to save them. Everything is possible for God.” Mark 10:23-27

You see guys and gals, it is impossible to save ourselves. It is impossible no matter how hard we try nor how well we live to enter into the kingdom of God apart from the cross. The cross is the entrance gate into God’s kingdom. That is how it works. There is no other way. You can not avoid the cross. You can not buy your way in. You can not earn entrance. It is a gift of God and as such can only be bestowed upon man by God through Jesus via the Holy Spirit.

In other words you must be born again. Jn 3:1 No flesh can inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Cor 15:50

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But those who are waiting for the Lord will have new strength; they will get wings like eagles: running, they will not be tired, and walking, they will have no weariness. Isaiah 40:31 (BBE)

 

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Grandma’s Apple Pie

I loved my grandma’s apple pies. To me there was nothing better than a fresh hot apple pie straight from the oven, covered with vanilla ice cream and eaten while it was still warm. Mmm Mmm good!

My grandparents lived in a simple house at the end of the road behind the now closed steel plant from which my grandfather had retired years earlier. The small fenced yard sprouted several large maple trees which provided cooling shade during a hot summer day. Also within the confines of that tiny yard was the huge Granny Smith apple tree, a sickle pear tree, and even a plum tree. Right outside the fence line was the neighbors Bing Cherry tree which every year produced thousands of dark red cherries. The eating kind.

Now you know why I loved grandma’s apple pie. The fruit came fresh from the tree in the backyard. I remember she would always bake one or two small pies just for us kids when she was baking the larger ones for herself and the neighbors.

O taste and see that the LORD is good! Happy is the man who takes refuge in him!  Psalms 34:8 (RSV)

The smell of those pies filled the whole house and we could not wait until they came out of the oven to sink or teeth into those sweet desserts. Grandma made the best apple pies! I can tell you that my grandmother’s apple pies were the best on the planet but unless you actually tasted one you would never know how good they really where. I have eaten many an apple pie since my grandmother passed away but I have yet to find one that compares to those hot apple pies grandma made.

That is how it is with God as well. We need to catch a whiff of God’s goodness, we need to acquire a taste for the Lord. We need an enticement to sample the Lord’s offerings. But once we do, we taste and see how good the Lord is!

16 You will know them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorns, or figs from thistles 17 So, every sound tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears evil fruit.18 A sound tree cannot bear evil fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus you will know them by their fruits. Matt 7:16-20 (RSV)

As good as the fruit was from those trees in my grandparent’s back yard they were not able to satisfy the emptiness that resided within me. From a wide-eyed little boy running around grandma’s backyard until I became a young adult there was an emptiness that not even an apple pie could fill.

My life produced one bad crop after another until I finally got to the point where I needed to find another way of living. The crops I kept planting in my life were only producing weeds. Nothing about my life was working out the way I hoped they would. My tree of life was not producing any good fruit, and I knew it!

3 As an apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among young men. With great delight I sat in his shadow, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. Song 2:3 (RSV)

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Just like grandma’s apple pie and sweet sickle pears that grew on the tree in her backyard, accepting Christ into my life was the sweetest thing that I had ever experienced. I tasted of the good fruit of heaven and found it totally satisfying. The tree of life held the sweetest fruit I had ever eaten. Not only was the fruit good to eat, but it also produced a good crop within me, and thusly started to produce good works around me. My life had been changed for the good! Thanks be to God!

The ingredients in grandma’s apple pie made for a good dessert but the ingredients in the Lord’s spirit made for a great life. Oh taste and see that the Lord is good and then go advertise His fruit offerings. Set up a fruit stand in your neighborhood and allow others to taste of God’s heavenly fruit. Introduce others to the life giving fruit of the Spirit of God. I pray that the sweet aroma of God’s love will waft through your neighborhood and others will want to try out what you have cooking inside your heart. That is how evangelism works. You get Jesus on the inside and He works on the outside drawing others toward Himself as they see how good He is to you by the good fruit your life is producing.

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My grandparents are long gone as well as that tiny house they once lived in. The fruit trees are no longer producing fruit and that chapter of my life has come to an end. But the joy of knowing the Lord will live on through eternity. Granny smith apples and sickle pears are good but the fruit the Lord produces is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Now that is good eating! Bon Appetit!

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